Nice Nasty Indifferent and Poor Me

This is based off Dr Simon's talk today. There are 4 emotions or ways we react when our needs are not met. Nice, nasty, indifferent, and poor me are these 4 actions and I think mostly in that order. An example would be when my daughter Lily wants something when we are out somewhere it will almost always start out with her saying daddy can I please have that, or I’ll even pay for it myself. When I say no the reaction turns nasty with her saying something like you are so mean daddy, I hate you. When that doesn’t work she will turn to I’m never talking to you again which is indifferent. Finally when all that fails I hear I never get anything I want, no body cares about about me, or poor me. Nice nasty, indifferent and poor me are not all actions of a child. Pay attention to others and you will see it everywhere when our needs are not met.
Is there a point to understand these emotions? Well I think that once you become aware of this you don’t have to take it so personally. It just happens to be that someone has needs that are not being met and none of it has anything to do with you taking it personally. Does your child really hate you when they aren’t getting what they want, I don’t think so. When we become aware of these actions we can then learn how to not take anything negative that is said to us so personally. You can’t control how someone acts toward you, but you can control how you let it effect you. No one can make me feel anger or hatred by how they act to me, only I can let myself feel that way. If someone says I am beautiful and I don’t feel beautiful I can let myself feel anger or resentment from hearing I am beautiful, or I can take those words and feel more beautiful. That choice is up to me, I have a choice on how I react to everything that goes on in this world. I am in control of every situation and blaming someone else for making me feel a certain negative way is really just not true.