Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Feeling good makes me feel selfish
The more I help other people, the more I help myself. That thought makes me feel selfish or guilty. Selfish and guilt because I help others doesn’t really make sense to me, so I thought I would ponder on it for a little bit. Selfish and guilt to me are part of my ego. The ego is the “I” or “mine” part of my life, and the part of my mind that attaches itself to things. What part of helping others makes me feel guilty or selfish? I know I have spend most of my life on the receiving end of the helping others in life, giving is something new to me, but not something that I think would make me feel guilt or selfish. It is such a good feeling when I know that I am helping someone who needs help and then somewhere at that point of feeling good I turn it around and make it a negative feeling. Maybe I don’t feel like I deserve to feel good when I help someone else. It should be like doing work or doing a deed without expecting anything in return, but I get flooded with warmth and the feeling like I did something good. If I look at it that way I guess I can see where guilt and feeling selfish can come in, but that is not what I want. I am doing what feels natural to me when I help someone else, and my natural actions makes me feel good. If it happens to help others that is great, but I can also see how letting myself feel good about doing what seems natural as something good. Problem Solved.
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The warmth that you feel is love. It's so rare to feel love in this world that people try to rationalize whether they deserve to feel it. Love is a circuit, if you block it's path you stop the flow of a powerful force.
Some things can't be understood by thinking. That is why people sing and paint and sculpt. That is why there are things like love at first sight and love across impossible boundaries. Love is a force mightier than reason.
There is a world within the world where people exist, in darkness and in light. Every day we make a choice of which path to take.
There is no act of kindness or charity to another that does not on some level make you feel good. And that's okay. Even the body is programmed to release "feel good" hormones at such times. Plus your kindness adds more positiveness into the world, and from there it can grow. The world needs that.
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